Over the Memorial Day weekend, I got to thinking about love. Specifically, unrequited love. And I posted on my Facebook wall about this, and I will expand upon this topic here.
I’m not talking about romantic love, but this can apply to that also. Have you ever loved someone, either in a romantic or friendship way, and then found out later it was not returned? That perhaps they were being nice to you for their own reasons, whether business, trying to get something from you, or the like? And how did you feel when you realized this? Taken? Like the fool?
Hogwash. You are never the fool for having loved someone. Never.
If you have ever taken a cruise, you might relate to this. Everyone is best friends for the 3 or 7 days of the cruise, pledging to remain friends, then when you disembark, you never hear from them again. As a matter of fact, when you see them at the dock, they don’t even seem to recognize you. Seriously? We ate breakfast together…..
At first my husband and I believed this, and I felt stupid about it, and now we just realize people want to have a pleasant vacation and we go about our fun without believing any of that any more. But it doesn’t matter. Even if you have a friend for 3 days or a week on a cruise, that’s still valid, and it’s all fine. And like I said before, you are never the fool for having loved someone. I use the term “love” loosely, in that it is an expression of goodwill, kind feelings for, liking someone.
I’m making this a mantra for myself “I am never the fool for having loved”. Because love is the highest vibration, and for me to be residing in love is awesome. It is something actually experienced within, and whether or not it is returned doesn’t even matter. If it is returned, fine. If not, you have loved. You have loved!!
People can’t “take” you or “fool” you. You loved, they tried to pull the wool over your eyes and pretended to return it, or made fun of you for it, talking about you behind your back perhaps. This is not a reflection on you. YOU LOVED. They manipulated, conned, backbit, and so on. So who’s the winner here? Always the one who LOVED.
For having loved, for having resided in love, you will attract all sorts of wonderful things to yourself. Maybe not that person you think you “have to have”, but something even better.
So keep loving – others will do their own thing, and it’s all good. And if you find yourself sad, let that move through you without it getting stuck. Sometimes things happen that trigger the release of old “stuff”, and it’s a relief to let it go, have a good cry, and go back to your state of love and peace.
For those of you who seem to get taken advantage of repeatedly for your good nature and loving nature, Doreen Virtue’s book “Assertiveness for Earth Angels” is wonderful.